Questions about Courting vs. Dating

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Permalink Reply by Rachel on February 16, 2008 at 10:23pm

I want to thank you Pastor Torres for having this sermon because I was getting tired of the "dating scene".

Permalink Reply by Bobby Torres on February 24, 2008 at 1:51am

You're welcome. It encourages me to know that people are blessed by it. There are many that get really angry because I teach this.

Permalink Reply by Jackie on February 21, 2008 at 6:40am

How is the Courting vs dating forums and discussions going?
Did you do a seminar at church on this topic?

Permalink Reply by Bobby Torres on February 22, 2008 at 11:05pm

Yes, we did a seminar and we plan on posting up the video.

Permalink Reply by Beth on October 29, 2008 at 12:09pm

Was this video ever posted? If so, please direct me. I've searched to no avail.

Permalink Reply by Dominique on August 7, 2008 at 1:06pm

Hello Pastor Torres,

This is my first time on this website. I came to this forum becasue I have some questions to ask. I just don't know where to start. Well I have known this guy for two years (since '06) now and we've met in college. We've talk and went to different school event's, nature walks, and just enjoyed each other time as friends. As time progressed I told him where I stand with God and I am saving myself for marriage. He is not into the Lord as I am but we've talked more and over time he accepted my views. During the early stages of our friendship we both wanted the boyfriend/girlfriend thing but I just wasn't comfortable with it. I had to tell him that this type of relationship leads to sexually temptations. So after a year we remained as friends. I hope this story doesn't sound confusing. So we've been up and down about committing to each other until recently. A couple of weeks ago we both confessed that we are committed and in a serious relationship. I told him about courting and marriage follows after. He said he doesn't want to get married right now. At times I feel that he struggles with the whole "wating until marriage" process. What should I do? I am thinking at this point we should be praying and talking to a spiritual counselor. He ask me over and over again "what are we" meaning title close friends, bf/gf, and so on. I do know dating creates a counterfeit oneness. As a young Christian woman I see marriage and that is honorable. What do you think Pastor Torres?

Permalink Reply by Diana Swartz on September 2, 2009 at 11:37pm

Ok, here goes... what if you've totally committed this area of your life to the Lord, only to find that over 25 years later you are still waiting, still single and totally frustrated? I realize there is no easy answer. Hope deferred makes the heart sick. My whole life I've desired marriage, a Godly husband. Is there just not enough Godly men out there and I was left out? Why would God "hold out" on me? It has not been easy and I've failed several times at waiting. I'm now almost 45 years old. I started this journey with God when I was 18. I really felt led to give it all to Him and I did. You can only imagine what I've gone through and I can tell you that at this point it has probably affected my faith. I honestly do not understand God on this one. Any insight from the Word?