Daughter in an innapropriate relationship

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Permalink Reply by Nanette on March 23, 2009 at 6:21pm

If you haven't already done so, I would suggest that you contact the counselors at Hope For Teens. Their link is at the right of this screen. They would have the knowledge to give you the help you are seeking.
I had a niece in a similar situation...the man had a criminal record. My sister-in-law got an order of protection against him, confined her daughter by removing all transportation options , telephones and email, and worked with law enforcement to end the situation. It took months to finally resolve the situation. It still didn't end up well...when the girl turned 18, she moved in with a friend of the first man.
When my daughter became rebellious, I sent her to Hope For Teens after three years of trying to help her. She is doing well now. Without more information on your daughter , it's hard to know what to share with you...so I would call Hope For Teens.

Permalink Reply by tiffany chatham on October 20, 2011 at 4:20am

I was 17 when i got married. I didnt do it to spite my parents or hurt anyone. I did it to be with the one i love. He lights my world. Yes i gave my Mom and Dad alot of trouble. But look at the beautiful family we are raising. God put me in my husbands life for a purpose. He has a two year old son that God sent me to Rescue from his scared and hurt life.

Permalink Reply by Carol on March 23, 2009 at 6:38pm

Russell, If I'm not mistaken you are in a state with laws to protect your daughter, but that won't change her heart. Google age of consent for your state. Sadly in PA, 16 is legal age of consent and there are no provisions for the difference in age. My grandson's parents sent him to the Second Chance program also listed to the right. In AZ the age of consent is 18 and the folks at the program restricted and monitored all contact. Sometimes you have to save a child from their poor choices and these programs give a child counseling, guidance and lots of love. There are many young people who have changed hearts and are growing in the Lord through these programs. May God be with you all.

Permalink Reply by Russell on March 23, 2009 at 7:06pm

The age of consent in Texas is 17.

Permalink Reply by Ashley Gurley on March 23, 2009 at 7:02pm

Russell,

Although I do not work for the Hope For Teens program, I personally have been touched by their ministry and know so many kids who have been rescued from terrible situations. I know that God can work a miracle in your family and in your daughter. I'm always encouraged to see the lives that are changed by the power of God working through this ministry. I am always reminded of Abraham and Isaac when I'm talking to parents. Abraham had to put his promise on the altar and almost sacrifice his only son when God provided a way out for him. It was during this time that Abraham's obedience to God was tested and God came through.

I don't know the details of your situation or how God is going to come through but I know one thing... that he will. God is faithful to complete what he started in your family. I will be praying for you guys!

God Bless,
Ashley

Permalink Reply by tiffany chatham on October 20, 2011 at 4:25am

Let me just tell you as a teen myself. i have done the same thing. Its a phase that will pass. But it really needs to be stopped dead in its tracks. I was 16 when i met my husband. My parents would keep me away from him because he was 19. That pushed me away from them. I finally said i was quitting school and moving away (and i did). But If you try to keep her away it will break her from you as her father. I would contact the counselors at Hope For Teens. I never had that kind of program and i know how hard it was going through that. Im not saying i regret getting married. But i do regret dropping out. I got my high school diploma a few months ago, and now working on becoming a RN.

Permalink Reply by joy ann magallanes on December 4, 2011 at 6:26am

age does not matter.. but tell you daughter to pray for her future husband.. 

How Do I Begin to Pray for My Future
Husband’s Heart?
• You begin by entering into a heart-to-heart relationship with God yourself.
• Pray that your future husband will become a Christian.
• Pray that he will read God’s Word and that it will transform his heart.
• Pray that the Lord will clear any of the obstacles in the path that are keeping him from coming to Christ.
• Pray that God will send someone to tell him the good news of salvation.
• Pray that God will prepare his heart to hear and respond to God’s call.

i've just copy paste this from a site.. and it really helps me... waiting for the right time, right person.. in God's time is always the best time.. 

always remind her about purity.. guide her.. tell her.. love is not enough for a relationship.. both must be God centered.. age doesn't matter.. your daughter must know the consequence of her actions...